If you have been assigned the very difficult task of writing and delivering a funeral speech for a loved one, but you never did it before, it can be a stressful and difficult task. Not only will you have to deal with the fact that you will have to write a speech and deliver it, but you also have to do it in the very sad situation of the loss of a loved one. A eulogy for father or mother, for example, can be very heartbreaking for anyone. So know that the responsibility while difficult is necessary. In the little time that you have to learn how to write a eulogy, you could be following some guidelines to get the speech right.
There are plenty of eulogy examples to be found on the internet and if you have never delivered or heard a eulogy in the past, that is the right place to start. Eulogy samples will give you an idea of what the speech should look like so go through a few of them before you decide on your theme. Any examples of eulogies that you can find can be of great help when you are trying to learn how to write a eulogy. If you can talk to people who have delivered eulogies in the past, then that can prepare you even better.
Because you will be delivering a speech about the deceased in front of several people, you are expected to have enough information to do so. The information that you get can be things that you asked loved ones such as stories or preferences for the person who has passed away. You can also find information in photo albums. One note of caution about looking at pictures is that it can be a quick way to become emotional so do so with care. Ask yourself a few questions about the deceased such as what made them happy, what were their passions, etc.
Organize Your Ideas
Now that you have all the information that you need, either written down or in pictures, it is time to start the organization of the content. You should organize all the ideas that you have in a way that when you tell the story, they do not seem to be all over the place. The perfect way to do that is to use a chronological order. This is very easy to do, especially when you are going with the things that you already know but you will probably need to get the chronological order for the things that other loved ones are telling you about the deceased.
Establish A Theme
Part of the organizing of your speech is to settle on a theme that you want to follow. Of course, you miss them but that is not enough for a theme. Think of the things that either made the person happy or that make the person someone who will be missed greatly. You can incorporate music that the person liked or write a poem about them or how you feel about the loss. The point is to have a theme that you can follow and that you can associate with the person now gone. Ideas for a theme can be found when you look at a eulogy example.
Once you have established the theme, you can follow that theme by using personal stories that will relate to what you are saying. Any quotes and comments that back up that story should be used and in fact personal stories and information or quotes should make about 90 percent of the entire eulogy. This is also the part when you can introduce a little bit of humor but nothing that will offend any of the attendees at the funeral. Once you have the story set, go to a short conclusion which will summarize your theme and thoughts. This is the guideline for the eulogy. You can add more things later.
Get To Writing
The middle of your speech will be the toughest thing about writing a eulogy so you should get to the body of the speech as soon as possible. The body of the speech is developed by putting similar items together. Do not go all over the place when giving your speech. One example would be to put all and any achievements by the person together and then adding that individual’s philosophy or idea of life. If there are any quotes that the person was known for, you should make sure to include them here as it will bring the memories back to the people who knew them best.
Know How Long The Eulogy Will Be
A eulogy is not a speech that you have to take too long in delivering. In fact, shorter speeches tend to be the best. A short eulogy will help you keep your emotions under control and will reduce the chances of breaking down while you are delivering it. You should be thinking of a speech around four to five minutes but never going past eight as it will be too long. That means that a total of three to a maximum of seven pages should be used. A shorter speech will prevent people from losing interest in what you are saying.
How To Type The Speech
It would sound simple when it comes to typing a eulogy but there are some things that you should be doing to ensure its success. Make sure to type in a font size and style that is easy to read. It should be at least 14 point size so that you ensure that you will not have any problems with it. Leave enough spaces so that you do not get confused from one line to another. The sentence length is very important and you should have different length for sentences. If you keep the sentence length about the same, your speech can end up sounding monotone. Finally, number the pages so that you do not get lost.
You should not just write the eulogy and deliver it. There is practice to be done and the importance of practicing should not be overlooked. You can practice by yourself or with another friend or family member. It is important that you do practice out loud as the words that you wrote can sound a lot different once you say them. Do not be afraid to edit whenever you feel the need to do so. This is when you should be listening to the feedback provided by family and friends as they may know something that you do not.
The Right Setting
The final step that you need to follow when you are learning how to write a eulogy is to get everything ready for the delivery. You should have at least a glass of water by the podium if there is one or a small table next to you. Reading word for word is also a good idea because that way you will not leave anything out of the speech that you wanted to say. You should make eye contact with the audience. This point can make you emotional but it is also a powerful way to deliver your speech.